Who is to blame?

The green light was on and everyone started moving. As always there were uncles and young lads, two distinct kinds of people especially when it comes to driving on the road.

I was driving along too. There was this uncle with upright chest stature, head held high and a medium sized belly driving his scooter at around 40kmph moving parallely with me on the right side. He went too close to the divider(though no real divider, it was just a line). He suddenly started moving towards me, he would have slowed down and came behind instead kept moving with me. He came too close that i had to move towards my left. As commonly evident on the Indian roads a young lad of my age with heavy acceleration was dashing from behind on my left side but i didnt notice him until the end. Uncle from the right side, me moving leftwards and that young guy dashing towards me from the left.

The young guy never took a detour neither did the uncle slowed down. But why did this concern me so much? 'Cause after a few moments i was lying on the road. The lad tipped me and i fell. I felt so erratic that i felt like bashing each of them. But was deciding to take up whom first. Deciding who should get the real blame first. Uncle, the guy or me?

Even before i decided upon one of them, what i could see was really surprising. They both started blaming each other and came heavily on the words too. And what really irritated was they didnt have the minimum courtesy to come and pick me up who was lying on the road like a lame ass. Some random guy on the road should be appreciated for it. Lately i realised that they were blaming each other simply to escape the real blame from me. Pricks!. But the real stupid thing i saw was yet to come.

I never said a word. Some guy helped me with the bike and i left the spot. After travelling a few yards i casually turned around to see if any vehicle was approaching 'cause i had to take a turn and what i saw was really... the word 'stupid' cannot satisfy the situation. Both the young guy and the uncle were still bashing and blaming each other.

Does it happen only in India?

While i was writing this post now, though irritating it somehow satisfied me a bit... :D
Atleast two guys were fighting for me if not girls hehe...jus kidding. This accident happened almost a year ago.

Psychofancy or Reality?

"How beautiful the waves of a sea are! Sometimes they are calm and sometimes they are harsh. Do you know that the waves of the sea are formed due to the forces of the moon!"

Huh!! Same old science lesson. But still clinged to the same channel. It was the anchor who made me stick to it. She was good looking and attractive. Well! Thats not the point here. The next
sentences from her cute pink lips left me speechless.

"When a small moon could influence the sea dont you think the '9' planets could influence the psyche of a human?"

Twists and twirls in my mind. Its a programme on "ASTROLOGY" and the coloured stone rings. The first words which ran in my mind are "Is she out of her brains?". Is that a scientific explanation for astrology or is it a new way of luring people towards it? Well well...im not a judge here.

But how many of us believe in it?
Some say its interesting, some say its happening and some call it baseless predictions. Diverse opinions. That day i was strongly influenced by my friend when he told about the tales of his future foreteller brother. I couldnt believe it, he was so accurate in predicting my friend's future. Accurate!!! Did i call accurate?...Probably thats the word that describes it coz he accurately told what has happened in my friend's past. And on that day i was swallowed in it and was left in pure awe when his brother presented his past events along with an almost accurate timeline. For an atheist like me this incident came as a surprise. My thoughts dwelled a bit deeper searching for the source of this paranormal study. So deep, it made me ask myself "Does it have anything to do with the existence of god?". For few moments my thoughts relayed back and forth. An atheist talking about the existence of god!!! Silly isnt it? But it dragged me that far...

I started recollecting all what i heard in the past. Those things made me think now. I heard about an IAS officer talkin abt god and that he had seen god in a famous temple. He published a book on it too. Well i have my own experience too. I dint see god though but met a man who foretold my future. He said im either gonna become a "computer engineer or an IAS officer". I had nothing to speak, it came to me as a surprise. I graduated in computer science and was preparing for the civil services examination. How did he have any hint on that? Believers may call it the power of astrology or planets or stars whatever it is and Non-believers may call it a logical thinking. I heard both the views. Practically speaking the logic of non-believers is not ignorable. To make it believe even believers started pouring scientific explanations for the existence of gods. An infamous story revolves round in anthropology about Ramayan. The process of evolution was given as the explanation. That Rama was a fully evolved human being and Hanuman was not yet fully evolved and he is still in the process of evolution.... Believable??? As a student of anthropology the explanation is very scientific to me...But as early as 10000yrs all humans were fully evolved homo sapiens and ramayan is not more than 10000yrs old.

And there were these subtle energy arts: Chi, Reiki, Chi Gung, Prana etc. They say they make use of one of nature's beautiful forces, the earth's magnetic field. I never thought man could ever interact personally with the forces of nature. Well, why not? We cannot judge anything until we experience it or until we see these predictions really happening.

I see people spending a lot and giving a lot of importance to these predictions though i dont call them completely baseless. I see them reading books tryin to learn more, tryin to consult these foretellers again and again and wanna know even the minute of things. They also say the future keeps changing, so what does it depend upon? The answer is your own mind but people hardly agree to this. No offending anybody here. Believers believe and non-believers dont believe. Where do i make my stand? I say all this is interesting. For the first time ever i talked abt 'stars' with my friend and her reaction was "Puppy talking abt stars!!". I never expected myself to talk abt these kinda things. Wondered what made me mutter about it. So seeking clarity i beleive i stand nowhere in the believers flock and nowhere in the non-believers flock. Let the future come. Lets decide it then.

A prominent future-teller once told me this "if we know our future, the one thing we could do is...change it". Never expected someone of that stature to talk in such an obsolescent way. But his message was clear.

'The future is in our hands, The future is ours, Its just a simple mind game.'

Death of True Love?

True Love, the words which everybody talks about though some doesnt know what that really means.The feeling which everybody seeks for though some never get.The word 'True Love' is been subject more to mockery than praise.Dont u agree? "There's nothing called true love","Please dont say i love you to any person" or "True love is only in sayings but never in practise",Blah blah-- Not just these but mocked in many different ways.But still there are people who believe in its sanctity and trueness.Are there?...Yes there are...

-So what exactly is true love or simply love(for love itself is true)??
Is it sacrifice or selfishness or just a feeling which comes and goes all the time or is it just a word used to get that "punch" or "dum" or "sweetness" in the dialogue.......What is it? Well i believe everybody has their own view.

First of all why do people not believe in the existence of love?
Because u didnt experience it? or your experience was bitter? or you simply want to say it for name sake coz everybody around u speaks the same way? or out of agony coz by the time you are ready to show it someone else stole your position? There should be a reason for it.No human speaks with no reason.

And the people who talk about its sanctity would have definitely had a very fruitful experience and extracted a lifetime happiness from it .There do exist such kind of people,right? Ya there do.I've seen quite few.But why is love,which we talk about very hugely(positively or negatively),lowerly prioritised even though our great epics preach sacrifice of ones own life is the greatest and the last thing he/she could do? Because it became too a common theme in almost all indian films and people got too bored to see another love story releasing next friday? or is it because it is talked only in the 60-second news flash at the end of a news session? or is it because it is covered only in the local news edition with a frail font?.We often see articles in magazines and newspapers about how a couple or a one-side love guy/gal committed suicide coz their love wasnt given a position to stand in this almost-adult-ridden-world.We call them cowards(but all people cant be as brave as we preach,right?).Their sacrifice was nothing but a bad example in this era whereas the same sacrifices were praised and have taken a special place in history like in the case of our legendary Devdas,Salim-... and so on(though these names too lost their value now and subject to pure mockery).People though getting commited(not in marraige but love) break-up after a few days or even years for their own genuine reasons(parents or personal characters so on) and some people though have no bars or problems couldnt express for their own just and genuine reasons.The sacrifice of hiding in a lie is seldom recognised.There are few people who never were able to express their love(though true) due to lack of courage or the opp sex is already in love with another and some people reject it(that too for their own reasons). Reasons huh!...Reasons which are reasonable,firm n explanatory.Reasons sometimes serve as the best excuses(to runaway,to escape and to hide).Every human action in this world has a reason and every reason has a meaning.Reasons unless clearly expressed leads to pure misunderstandings.Reason is as bad as it is good.

I've seen the extremes of love.A friend of mine battled for life after consuming some stupid rat poison and saw him take just 6-7 breathes per minute for a girl who rejected his love.Another friend of mine had so many boyfriends for the past few years and she is all set to marry a total new guy.Hmm there is a difference between love and lust i agree.I mingled both coz people are forgetting to differentiate between love and lust and infactuation.

So is love nothing but understanding the other person and doing what is good and happy to the other person? or is it much more than that? If it is more than that then i certainly have to love a person to find my clear-cut definition of love.

Imagine the world in which we live...busy busy several other activities surrounding us all the time making us run all the time stress strain external pleasure.Can we really stick to our own definition of love?
Is there a place for love in this never-sleeping,ever-moving world?
Well,i think so...what do u think?

Look at the picture.Watch them carefully.Both of them are hugging each other.They are called "Stone-Age Lovers" and the hug is called "Eternal Embrace".They date back to 6000 years ago.The earth around them was dug instead of the usual practise of taking out the bones and later preserving them and they were put in a museum in Italy.They were found just 25miles from Verona where Shakespeare set his famous 'Romeo and Juliet' ;).No one really knows the reasons why they are in that manner but as co-humans we can conclude to one obvious reason--"LOVE".Yes,though no genuine reason,i believe the reason is love and almost all the world agreed to that conclusion.


Love is eternal.Love can change everything.It can baptise a person,can turn us into a monster,can make us lame,can make us idiot,can make us subconcious......it can turn us into anything but most importanatly,if understood,it turns us into a human being though we may not always succeed in our love..Love is everywhere.It is around us n inside us.I say love never dies.....

P.S:The last six lines are not from my life's experience but they are the generalisations of the real success stories of love which i've seen and heard from the ppl themselves...The last sentence "I say true love never dies"was the only one which is mine.Coz thats wat their experience made me believe and i still hafta experience it.Donno whether dat may come true with me or not...

Indians....Who we really are?

It never stops,it was always there in them and now it has once again come out openly...thanks to Big Brother.Jade Goody proved us that this feeling of racial discrimination is inherent in the minds of the so called "fair-skinned" people.The whole world has responded to the words "live in slums","paki","the indian" and some other words which are not published in the media "f..king loser" and "f..k off home" by Jade "Baddy",Jack Tweed and others.

Jade was taught a lesson and an enormous support erupted for Shilpa Shetty from all over the world.People back in India are so much moved that they staged dharnas and sent sms' to news channels in support when they just saw one Indian sob in her closet aftr being victimised to racial discrimination.Tell me

~How many of us really care for those who have been the victims of discrimination on our own home soil??

~None of us.

We "maintain the discrimination"(not specifically racial) to every stranger.Stranger here i mean ecxepting family,closest frnds n the people belonging to our CASTE.After watching Shilpa cry and so much care we gave for her i realised y r we not same Indians when it came to the millions of people who cry in their homes almost everyday because they've been discriminated on the basis of caste or class or watever shit.

Everybody discriminates evrybody if he/she doesnt belong to their own caste,class or community.Hindus discriminate muslims,jains discriminate buddists,the so-called upper caste people discriminate the so-called lower caste people of SCs,STs,BCs and dalits.Vice-Versa.High-class people descriminate middle- and low-class people and vice-versa.Indians have become hyper-ethocentric and xenophobic.Rather CASTO-CENTRIC and CLASSO-CENTRIC.The whole dimension of division of people on the basis of caste has been changed since it has started.Now the word caste in India mean discrimination.The word reminds us of discrimination n nothin else.

The caste point is from a broader perspective.Forget all the dimensions and walk into our daily lives.We talk about love,care,help,sympathy n all but do we really do wat we say?
Absolutely not.How many of us have had evil eyes to a beggar who left his self-respect on the side of the road n stretched his arms for a penny? 90% of us wud have done that.Is he/she not a human just lik u n me.Well if u think his dejected social status is the only reason for that then damn u dont dare speak about love,care n all things which are insensible to u.I heard people saying "chi po" (get off!) and "vadni chudu adukkunevadu jeans veskunnadu" (look at him,being a beggar he wore a jean pant) and many more....Y a beggar shud not prosper?? Y do u not feel happy to see that the beggar is developing n prospering.Learn to treat people lik people n not lik animals.Beggars r the most common ground where we show wat we really r.From beggars to our collegues at work to our neighbours with whom we live we show discrimination.If you ask me who we(Indians) really are i wud say we r the most racist people on earth.We racially discriminate each n every person.

We call ourselves a united billion with multiethnicity,multilingual n multireligious groups.But how united r we truly?? The next time u call united india just think again.We r united certainly only wen other countries talk bad abt us n we all r fevicol-united during India-Pakistan cricket matches.Every Indian does the same thing to their fellow Indians wat Jade Goody has done to Shilpa Shetty no doubt abt that.The only one who does the perfect thing is an ideal person and no person in this world is ideal.IDEALISM IS MYTH.But 1 thing is for sure.We can bend towards idealism to a great extent.Lets try to be human n more humane and live up to the phrase of "United India".